wForum members intuitively know that quality time with other women is good for our health. What makes that so?
Women’s Forum is very important to me. You would know that if you knew me. However, I never thought of time spent in wForum (or with my best girlfriends) as scientifically contributing to my good health. But is it?
There is a recycled article flying around the web that cites Dr. Spiegel’s research done at Stanford University related to well-being and the connection between stress and disease and its particular application to women’s friendships with other women. Even though I cannot verify the origin, the information is so compelling that I’ll share it without my usual primary source citations.
Reportedly, during one of his lectures on the subject of the mind-body connection, Dr. Spiegel, professor at Stanford University in the Department of Psychiatry and Behavioral Sciences, reportedly shared the following insight:
“One of the best things that a man can do for his health is to be married to a woman whereas, for a woman, one of the best things she can do for her health is to nurture her relationships with her girlfriends.”
The professor went on to explain that whereas men often bond with other men over activities, they bond with women over quality time. Women cut to the chase, so that even if we are engaged in an activity, we bond over shared stories, feelings and experiences. In other words, the activity is a backdrop for connecting, which is the true serum for health and well-being.
There is a tendency to believe that when we are exercising we are doing something good for our bodies, and when we hang out with friends we are wasting time and should be engaged in something more productive. Not true. In fact, failure to create and maintain close personal relationships is as dangerous to your health as smoking. Imagine that!
If you have ever struggled with a legitimate reason for joining, or for continuing to stay with Women’s Forum, or feel guilty about time spent with girlfriends, fret no more. It is all in the name of good health—yours!
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By: Adelaide Waters